Life in general

Yesterday i was chatting with a few new moms in my daughters Sunday school. I was with a few young moms who were sitting outside the school taking care of their younger kids. We started talking about kids and raising them in US without any help as most of out Indian counterparts get in India. Many of us have just been to India and we know the kind of life most of the middle class working women have there and as we live the middle class working women life here we had a reason to compare.
A doc mom who is setting up a new clinic had her own worries as now she will be working long hours and no day care would be open that long to take care of the kids.
I was wondering why don't we have late night...night cares. won't it make it working moms life a bit easier. when many jobs are offered where a person is required to work till late then how come no one thinks about having a late night child care facility. If it was India i would leave my kids with my mom or mom-in-law without even thinking about it twice as i know kids are going to bed by 9. But as we do not have any such support system many of us can't do jobs in a professional way as we are expected.
I was aware of everyone's pains and problems but this made me think. I wonder why don't we make groups where we can help each other when we really really have to go out for something important and can't take our kids out with us. Or have night time child care. i think this is something we must discuss next time i meet these moms.
i noticed another thing with the moms. Most of these moms are highly educated and and come form a good background. After coming here and getting stuck in the rut of raising kids and doing all the work themselves, they give up on their appearance. They all have good outfits and have very good jewelry to go with those out-fits, but lack of time and perhaps apprication form their spouses they lose interest in dressing up.
I think this is what i do. Many times i feel i am nobody and no one knows me so "Who cares?"
Well i think people do care. Not only outsider but also our own husbands and our kids care about how their mom looks!
I must now agree that i do not like to do house chores everyday. I feel it is a wastage of time to do mundane jobs to clean and cook. But when i go to my kids room before i go to bed i think it is all worth it. I might have felt very different if my husband was a stereotype Indian Man. thank God i have a husband who helps me equally. Who supports me to do what ever i want to do outside by staying home with the baby. He compliments me and suggests me very subtly if something doesn't go on me for some occasion.
What do we need i think it becomes easier to live in a strange,new land with a very few acquaintances; if your spouse is supportive and loving.
Isn't it easy to live a happy life with just a few words and a bit of help and just a bit of romance on a daily basis.